There are so many things I wish I could tell pregnant women. So here goes…
- I know your back hurts, and maybe you have pressure “down there,” but don’t be induced just because you’re tired of being pregnant. Pregnancy really is a gift (with all the weird accessories that go with it) that a lot of women aren’t able to experience. Wishing your baby would be born early? Talk to a mother who has had a baby in the NICU, or a mom whose baby died from a complication of prematurity. Everyone thinks it wont happen to them. And when you’re induced for no medical reason, there is a much greater chance of you ending up with a cesarean delivery.
- The most accurate ultrasound is the earliest ultrasound. It doesn’t matter if they change your due date towards the end of your pregnancy, or if the baby “weighs THIS much.” Your baby’s weight doesn’t help your baby breathe.
- Your doctor is human, and so are we.
- Just because you’re admitted to have your baby, you can still do things for yourself. You don’t have to stay in the bed, and you shouldn’t stay in bed!
- If you told a nurse at any point that you wanted to breastfeed, and then you ask for formula and they just hand you a bottle, that is wrong! Say to them…My goal was to breastfeed, but now I want formula. What do you think about that?
- I don’t want to poke you more than once to get your IV. But if I have to, I will find a way to make it not my fault: Oh, you are so dehydrated. Your veins are so tiny. Your veins roll. Are you a smoker? How much water do you drink? Your veins are so valvy… sorry
- I will not remember what your vagina looked like the moment I walk out of your room. This I can promise you.
- Don’t be embarrassed about your stretch marks. We’ve seen worse. And again, we will not remember them as soon as we walk out of your room.
- Say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Courtesy goes a long way…
- Be honest with us. Every nurse I know has a need to help people. If you tell us you’re scared of ____ and you’re worried about ____ we will comfort and reassure you.
- Come prepared to the hospital. You will most definitely need: your toothbrush, toothpaste, socks, and pajamas for after you deliver. I’m always perplexed when someone does not bring their toothbrush, but does bring an outfit to take the baby home in. (But if you do forget, we have everything except the pajamas). Pack this bag early in your pregnancy and just have it ready, just in case.
- Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Do not let anyone do anything to you if you’re not sure what they’re doing or why they’re doing it.
- If anyone stays in your room, I will make them work. It can’t just be me and you doing everything. So dad, here’s the ice machine and grandma, here’s the emesis bag 🙂
- You have to be able to take yourself off of the monitor to go to the bathroom. If you call out needing to pee, it might take me a minute to get to you and when pregnant people have to go, they have to go!
- Every single time we go into your room, we have a purpose. Even if it looks like we’re just chit-chatting, we’re actually doing a hundred things in our head: oh her IV is almost empty and I don’t want it to beep, her trash is getting full, I wonder if I can find another pillow for her, her respirations are 19, she is handling her contractions well, she’s alert and oriented, her family is providing great support…
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